The thing that makes somebody so great is when they complement you but they don't complete you. You don't need them, but you know you're better with them.
Sometimes it's crazy to think that there is actually somebody out there who has what you lack, but when you find it, you don't want to let it go. The thing about finding somebody that has what you lack is that at times it's hard to trust something you know nothing about. It's not that you don't trust them, but it's fear of losing yourself. You love them so much and you know what they can do for you, but yet you fight them because it's been you your entire life and all you know is yourself and how you operate alone.
Now that you've found somebody that cares and is willing to come into who you are it's kind of nerve wrecking, because once you let them in completely, they have the power to try and destroy you. The thing is, there shouldn't be fear of losing yourself if you find somebody who can give you something to add to what you already have. "But they don't know me like I know myself " is what we're so ready to tell ourselves, but if you think about it, God gives you people for a reason. He gives you people who see things in you that you can't see in order to teach you something.
Our stubbornness and our failure to let open that last piece of ourselves, the piece that will allows us to grow, is what keeps us stagnant. Sometimes we think that we are as open as we can be, but when the person who you say you want to let in can't get in or can't get to you, you have to reevaluate yourself and see that maybe you're more closed off than you think. We're so quick to point the finger and tell the other person that maybe they're not trying hard enough, but maybe we need to look at our own effort.
It's easier to blame somebody else rather than to blame ourselves, as immature as that may be. No matter how old you are, or how mature you are, there will most likely come a time where you should be looking at the fault within yourself, but you try to find fault in others. We don't want to admit that we're wrong. It's hard, it takes a shot at our pride to admit when we've failed and as humans, we're very prideful.
Will we let our fear, our inability to be vulnerable, our failure to see fault within ourselves, and our pride to destroy us and make us miss out on what could be?
The reality of it all is that when you find someone who complements you, you know that life wouldn't be the same without them. You would be fine without them, but still, life just wouldn't be the same.
